My husband and I were sitting in a hotel ballroom at the Sexual Health Expo in Los Angeles, attending a talk by a woman named Jaiya. She was in a flowy dress and was sharing her theory on the “Five Erotic Blueprints” with the audience. We were there because we’d been married forever and were trying to take a fresh look at our sex life, to forget what we thought we knew about ourselves and each other, and to see what new ideas seemed worth exploring.
As Jaiya began to talk about her blueprints, I felt like I could hear a little bit about myself in each one. For instance, there was the “sensual” who needs to feel relaxed before they can feel sexy, and the “kinky” who is turned on by taboo. I thought to myself, sure, I find it helpful to be relaxed and fun to be naughty.Read More