Many sex and relationship articles stress the importance of communication. But there is a difference between talking and truly open communication.

When our partners share their most intimate secrets, we tend to worry about whether we personally have the same desires or whether we can fulfill their desires, instead of being curious about their desires and seeking to learn more.

I propose we take a more playful approach and turn this conversation into a game. To get started:

1. Ask your partner if they will play this game with you
2. Set ground rules that you get to be honest with no judgment
3. Share your story anonymously at