After a decade and a half at Apple and Facebook, I left my career in high tech to found Down To There to share my real-life stories of challenges and successes around sexuality in my marriage. I hope that my journey from struggling with sexual desire to a now rich and rewarding sex life can provide an example of how normal issues with desire can be, and how these issues can provide unexpected pathways for increased intimacy and connection. 

As a Somatica® sex and relationship coach, I enjoy working with individuals and couples of all configurations to explore what is possible emotionally and erotically in their relationships. I am currently accepting and seeing clients over Skype and in-person in my office in Cupertino, CA. I also provide content and guidance for Down To There Circles: free, peer-led discussion groups, where friends can support and inspire each other around sex and relationships.

My ongoing studies include training with San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI), American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT), JFK University's holistic counseling program and the Somatica® Institute.

My writing has been featured on Huffington Post, Mindful and Psyched. I've also been a guest on several podcasts including the Sex With Emily podcast, Tom Joyner and Jacque Reid's Morning Show, Melissa Risso's Let's Do It, August McLaughlin's Girl Boner and Kerri Miller's Smart Sex. I have spoken at the Wisdom 2.0 and Inman conferences.

I can be reached for coaching, writing and speaking at pam@downtothere.com or 1-650-887-4751.


New to this blog and want to start at the beginning? Check out this post about why I started a blog about sex.