There are currently three unique ways to work with me. You can join one of my monthly online circles for women or men, work with me privately, or join me for one of my upcoming workshops… all of which are described in more detail below.

Monthly online Down To There™ circles

Wish you had a group of people you could talk with about sex? Down To There™ circles are a unique opportunity to join others from around the world. In these hour-long online conversations, participants will share their experiences around a topic related to sex and relationships and have a chance to ask me questions.

Circles are hosted using the Zoom app, with all attendees wearing headphones, with audio and video on. Registration options below.

Private Coaching

Struggle with knowing or communicating how you feel and what you need emotionally or physically? Caught in a negative cycle with your partner? Have a good relationship, but want to make it even better? Experiencing low desire, erectile dysfunction or challenges with some other aspect of your sexuality or sexual function?

As a sex and relationship coach, I help couples and individuals explore how challenges in relationship can offer unexpected pathways to increased intimacy and connection. My approach is collaborative and experiential which means rather than just talking about what is going on, I’ll offer suggestions during our sessions to try something different in the moment to see what can be learned. I don’t believe there is any one right way to be in relationship, but I am interested in helping you discover what is uniquely right for you.

I am available for private coaching for couples and individuals out of my Cupertino office (75 minutes) and also over Skype (60 minutes). Sessions are $325, payable by credit card at time of booking. I currently see clients on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays from 8:30am to 5:30pm PST. If you are interested in coaching, please reach out to me at pam@downtothere.com.

Upcoming Workshops

Helios Thursday September 26, 2019 6:30-8:30pm - In this 2 hour evening conversation in Woodside, CA, attendees will explore how sexual myths and fairytales have impacted their relationship to their bodies and sexuality. Learn more and register here.

1440 Multiversity Saturday October 12, 2019 - In this 1.5 workshop as part of the larger UCOT conference in Santa Cruz, CA, attendees will explore the negative and positive impacts of the messages we’ve received from family, schools, churches, media and technology on our sexual identities and behaviors. Learn more and register here.

Esalen Friday June 26 - Sunday June 28, 2020 - In this weekend workshop in Big Sur, CA, attendees will have the opportunity to engage in group conversation and exercises to explore myths around female and male sexuality, tap into the wisdom of the body and learn how fantasies can provide insight into our emotional and physical needs. Learn more and register here.